BY Raphael Osano
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another baby and maybe the third one. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we will be more content when they are old and can take care of themselves.
Later, we are frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with and maybe we will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We console ourselves that maybe we will get better when our spouses get their acts together, when we are able to get a nicer car or when we can go on a nicer vacation maybe to celebrate summer abroad. Some of us even think of retirement at the ideal time to be happy. The truth is that there is no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Maybe never.
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. As Roger Crawford puts it……..being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional. Just keep fighting and face the bulls from the head.
Alfred D. Souce once said, “For a long time, it seemed that life was about to begin-real life. But there were always some obstacles on the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
From this perspective, is it not true that there is no way to happiness but rather happiness is the way? So treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time…..and remember that time waits for no one.
So are you still waiting……..
Until you finish school or until you go back to school
Until you lose ten pounds if you are “pum pum” or until you gain ten pounds if you some “tooth-pick”
Until you have kids or until your kids leave the house
Until you start work or until you retire
Until you get married or until you get divorced
Until Friday night or until Sunday morning
Until you get a new car/ home or until your car/ home is paid off
Until spring, winter, autumn or until its summer time
Until you are off welfare-wise
Until your song comes on
Until you’ve had a drink or until you’ve sobered up
Until you die or until you are born again
So decide because we have no better time to be happy than right since happiness is a journey not a destination